Pastor Pusch

“Bro Color Day” Sparks Invaluable Discussion

In what areas do men need help?

Lately, I have been doing a lot of thinking in this area. Everyone remembers the “bra color day” fiasco that took place on facebook last week. I suppose there were both pros and cons to the “awareness” factor. Yes, it got a lot of people talking, however, the talk was not all about breast cancer.

I had my own reaction to the “bra color day” when I first learned about what the colors women around the world were posting. I asked a friend of mine, a pastors wife, what the colors mean. She indicated that she could not tell, but only to say that it was a girl thing. I immediately thought this must have something to do with the color of underwear. I thought this for two reasons, 1. I had real doubt that the privacy had anything to do with their color shirt or ink pen, 2. I am a man.

Just yesterday a friend of mine who pastors a church in Alabama called me and asked me my opinion concerning the question mentioned above. He’s working on graduate studies project. My guess is thatit primarily deals with men as they interact with the ever-changing culture. I did not give much thought to the “bra color day” on facebook until I hung up the phone.

In what areas to men need help and/or accountability? There were several I spoke with in regards to “bra color day” who opposed it because they thought it was inappropriate and TMI (too much information) especially for their husbands to see. One friend mentioned that she simply told her husband not to go on facebook that day. She did not want for her husband to see what color bras his friends were wearing. That is certainly understandable.

My intent with this post is not to rehash the “bra color day” debate; we have already had that discussion. However the recent event best illustrates what I am after. Where do men need help? In what areas? One suggested that men need mentor. I agree, but in what areas? I am looking for more specific answers. I would like to hear from both men and women on this one. The benefits of this subject is invaluable. Won’t you help a brother out?

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I am quite sure that the overwhelming majority of the pastorpusch.com audience are members of the social networking site, Facebook, so I thought this was blog worthy. On my way to work the radio station I was listening to at the time gave a 1-2 minute blurb concerning the jealously of those whose significant others were facebook users. What’s the deal?

For all you facebook users out there, here are a couple questions to consider.  Are you “friends” with former girlfriends/boyfriends? Do you have “friends” of the opposite sex who are unknown to your significant other? If so, research indicates Facebook may be fueling the flame of jealousy. ”In a study of 308 Facebook users, researchers discovered that people who are more prone to jealousy will find Facebook just reinforces that jealousy.”

“The researchers created their own specialized quiz for the study, called the Facebook Jealousy scale. The scale is composed of 27 items that are measured on a 7-point scale from “very likely” to “very unlikely” that assess Facebook-related jealousy. According to the study, sample items include “How likely are you to become jealous after your partner has added an unknown member of the opposite sex?” and “How likely are you to monitor your partner’s activities on Facebook?””

“Researchers found that if you’re more likely to be a jealous person (what psychologists call “trait jealousy”), you’re more likely to have “Facebook jealousy” too. Women were more likely to be jealous than men. And here’s the kicker — time spent on Facebook contributed a tiny part to Facebook jealousy. (Women spend more time on Facebook than men.)”

Read the full article here.

Is there something to be said here? What say you?