Good Grief: 12 Good Lessons on Grief
Grief is a natural human emotion and it’s ok to express grief, hurt, and sorrow. No one is calling you to tough it out. I believe a good wailing or sob is good for the soul!
This morning I learned of the death of someone very near and dear to Rena and I — Ms. Terry Trimble. As I wrote last night, her faith in God was evident by all those who knew her. It shined from her very being because she loved the Lord with all that she had. Today, her faith has become sight… WHAT A GLORIOUS THOUGHT!
I take solace from the words of Paul to the Thessalonians, where in chapter 4 he says, “But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep.” There’s a phrase at the end of verse 13, did you see it? “That you may not grieve as others do who have no hope.” Aren’t you glad?!?! I’m thankful for the hope we have in Christ Jesus. Even so, verse 13 DOES NOT say we won’t grieve. It simply says our grief is different. WE WILL STILL GRIEVE and grief is still a reality, it’s raw, and can be relentless.
So, in your grief, here are 12 good lessons to remember as you process your emotions and deal with the real pains of sorrow and loss. (I recognize some of these may go together.)
Lean on God's Word: Find comfort in the Scriptures and meditate on passages that speak of God's love, faithfulness, and promises of comfort. (For example: Psalm 23; Psalm 116; 2 Corinthians 4; 1 Thessalonians 4)
Seek God's Presence: There is no better place. For many, there is a tendency to hide your face from God or even run. Don’t fall victim to the enemy’s desire to pull you away. Rather, RUN TO GOD! Spend time in prayer, pouring out your heart to God and seeking His comfort and guidance.
Surround Yourself with Supportive Believers: Now is not the time to isolate yourself. The Christian life was never intended to be lived alone. We need each other — we need the Body of Christ. We rejoice together, weep together, cry together, and laugh together. Connect with a supportive community of believers who can offer love, encouragement, and prayer during your grieving process.
Be Honest with God: There is nothing you can tell God that will surprise Him. Actually, He already knows exactly how you feel. To voice it openly before the Lord is freeing. He can handle it. Don't be afraid to express your emotions, doubts, and questions to God. He understands your grief and is ready to listen.
Take Care of Yourself: Again, no one is asking you to “tough it out.” Don’t wear yourself out. Take time to pay attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Don’t bottle it up. It will eventually get the best of you. Get enough rest, eat well, and engage in activities that bring you joy.
Allow Yourself to Grieve: As mentioned, grief is natural and there is no guilt in “letting it out.” Perhaps one of the worst things you can do is to suppress your grief only for it to explode later. Give yourself permission to mourn and grieve the loss. It's a natural process, and it's important to acknowledge and process your emotions.
Find Comfort in Worship: Engage in worship through music, whether it's singing hymns, listening to worship songs, or playing an instrument. Worship can bring peace and draw you closer to God. The Psalms are a good example of this. Often in the darkness, worship is what accompanies victory in the morning. Of course, we can’t forget Paul and Silas in Acts 16. In their darkness, worship broke off their shackles.
Share Your Story: There are two benefits to think about concerning your story. First, talk about the one whom you lost here on earth. Even after near 30 years, one of the things I love to talk about most is my brother, Craig. It brings certain comfort and joy to talk about Him… and believe me that grief still comes in waves at times. It’s not near as great as it was, but the grief still exists. Second, consider sharing your experience with others who may be going through similar grief. Your testimony can provide comfort and encouragement.
Serve Others: Fulfill your purpose. Don’t stop serving. Look out especially for opportunities to serve and support others who are also experiencing grief. By extending compassion, you can find purpose and healing.
Seek Professional Help if Needed: There is NO SHAME in professional help. It’s not taboo and there is nothing wrong with you. If your grief becomes overwhelming or prolonged, don't hesitate to seek the assistance of a professional counselor or therapist who can provide guidance and support.
LOVE ACTUALLY! Scripture is clear about how we — believers in Christ Jesus, are to love one another. Jesus said our love for one another will be away in which the world will see that you are followers of Him. The Apostle Paul said that our genuine love for one another is a true indication of our love for the Lord. So, LOVE SOMEONE! NOW! Tell someone you love them… and don’t let it just be words. Show your love in both word and deed.
HOPE IS HERE! Rest in the hope of Jesus Christ and our home in heaven. Paul is right by the way. We do not have to grieve as those who have no hope. We have the hope of promise of heaven. We have the hope and promise of Jesus’ return — who right all the wrongs of this world. What a day that will be!
Friends, grief is real. It’s hard. It’s a process and it will take take time. It’s definitely gets better, but it will always be with you. Trust in God’s love for you. He is faithful. He is near to the broken hearted . Lean on Him and focus intently on your faith in Christ as you walk this journey. YOU ARE LOVED!
To God Be The Glory,
Pastor Pusch
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
— Psalm 34:18
