Church Loyalty/Unity
Part 2 of 2
Last week I wrote a part 1 to this little series entitled “Pastoral Betrayal.” It struck a chord with many as I received a lot of personal comments on the article. As mentioned, it’s a sad but true job hazard for many. Today is part 2/2 and the original title was simply going to be the opposite of that week, “Pastoral Loyalty,” but as I began writing, “Church Loyalty and Unity” seemed best. Nonetheless, I’m leaving the original title in place because there are a couple things I want to say about Pastoral Loyalty, but as you read, you’ll see more of the “Church Unity” appeal come forward.
Let me begin this smaller section on “Pastoral Loyalty” by defining what it is not. Pastoral Loyalty is not a “Yes-Man” position where you agree to/with everything the pastor says. It’s a dangerous thing for a pastor to be a “one-man show” or set himself up as a “dictator.” Differing ideas, conversations, and working through various issues (good and bad) is healthy. No pastor should come off as “It’s my way or the highway.” THAT’S ALSO TRUE of the membership – the church congregant. The act in which a church member says, “if you don’t do what I’m wanting or if don’t see it happening, then I’m taking my ball and going home.” In those situations, it’s hard for the pastor to not show them the front door. They are typically unreasonable people, with negative dispositions, and unrealistic expectations. However, watch out pastor/church leader because you too can fall into those categories as well.
So, what is Pastoral Loyalty? In two words, “Being There.” Being there – for the church, his family, through difficulty in life and ministry, or simply being there to support and encourage Him. Being there comes with a variety of blessings that warms the heart of a pastor. For example…
Being There…
1. Expresses a great sense of unity within the church.
2. Demonstrates an increased trust and support from the membership and other leaders.
3. Grants stability for the pastor’s ministry.
4. Enhances spiritual growth and the desire for others to engage, seek deeper relationships, and eagerness to serve.
5. Creates a culture or atmosphere that cultivates the Fruit of the Spirit inside and outside the walls of the church.
Is that Pastoral Loyalty or just what the church should be doing in relationship to church unity? I’m reminded of Paul’s words to the Ephesians,
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, (2) with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, (3) eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (4) There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call— (5) one Lord, one faith, one baptism, (6) one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. (7) But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ's gift” – Ephesians 4:1-7.
Verse 3 really stands out: “eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” What does that look like? How does someone remain eager to strive for unity in the church and peace for the sake of the gospel, here are 5 useful practices you can implement personally:
1. Focus on the Mission: The ultimate goal of the church is to spread the message of the gospel and reflect Christ's love to the world. Keep this mission in front of you and let it guide your actions and interactions within the church.
2. Cultivate Humility and Grace: Approach disagreements and conflicts with humility, recognizing that we are all imperfect and in need of God's grace. Seek to understand others’ perspectives, seek common ground (there is so much more commonality than disagreement), and be willing to extend forgiveness and reconciliation when needed.
3. Practice Empathy and Compassion: Seek to understand the background, needs, and challenges of others. Put yourself in their shoes and show empathy and compassion towards their struggles. This helps build bridges of understanding and fosters unity within the church.
4. Pray for Unity: Regularly pray for unity within the church. Ask God to guide the hearts and minds of all members, bringing reconciliation and peace where there are divisions. Seek His wisdom and guidance in nurturing a spirit of unity and love.
5. BE THERE! Get to church (If your church has Sunday School or Small Groups, BE THERE too!) Get there early. Get involved. Encourage others as they come in. Welcome guests. Pray for each other. Pray for the difference elements that will take place during your worship time together (Scripture Reading, Prayer Music, Preaching, Ordinances, etc.). Pray for your leaders. BE ENGAGED!
Striving for unity and peace in the church is an ongoing work in process that depends on you and the commitment from every member. I’ve heard it said before, but the first time this phrase was introduced to me was by a dear mentor and pastor of mine. when I was young. He said – and it is so true, “EVERY MEMBER IS A MINISTER.” Paul said in the passage above, “grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gifts.” – Ephesians 4:7. Elsewhere Paul said, “But now God has set the members, each one of them, in the body just as He pleased.” – 1 Corinthians 12:18. God has given you (SPECIFICALLY) a gift(s) to be used to serve Christ and His Church. There’s no such thing as a “Pew Sitter.” It pleased the Lord to give you gifts (talent, ability) to serve His Church — DON’T WASTE IT!
Be LOYAL to your church and work together with “eagerness to maintain the UNITY of the Spirit in the bond of peace!” ALL FOR GOD’S GLORY! YOU ARE LOVED!
For God’s Glory,
PastorPusch
